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Posted by on Feb 9, 2015 in Angry Political Crap, Career, Family, Interesting, Life, Profound, Social Commentary | 0 comments

Feminism: That Word Does Not Mean What You Think It Means

Feminism: That Word Does Not Mean What You Think It Means

Feminism.

The word is charged with meaning. It can bring on all kinds of emotions in most individuals.

That said, for most: “that word does not mean what you think it means”.

It does NOT mean that a woman can’t be a stay-at-home mom and still be respected.

It does NOT mean that a stay-at-home mom isn’t a feminist.

It does NOT mean we castigate stay-at-home moms.

It does NOT mean we get MORE rights than men.

It does NOT mean we bitch at men for holding doors or seats for us.

We get EQUAL rights. That’s all it is about. Equal rights, including the choice of how to live our lives, without being bitched at about it. We get to vote. We get equal pay (well, SOMEDAY, in this DAMN COUNTRY).

But it’s about equality. Not more. Not less. And NOT judging the choices women make.

And yes, men can be feminists too. Because they too can believe in our right to choose how to live our lives. My husband is just such a man.

Feminism: learn what it really is, before you get your panties or boxers in a wad.

 

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Posted by on Apr 28, 2013 in Career, Family | 0 comments

The Work-From-Home Parenting Myth

A lot of people want to work from home to be able to spend more time with their children. As a mother of toddler twins, I empathize with the emotion.

That said, the reality of the whole idea is ludicrous. At least, if you have younger kids. I worked from home, freelance, for the first 1.5 years of my kids’ life. Then, I worked on weekends and evenings while holding down a full-time job. Now, I telecommute for my day job and by evenings and weekends, I freelance.

Trust me, during this time, if your kids are home, you will get to spend LOTS of time with your kids. But you won’t get much work done. There will be a never-ending demand for “mommy”. Even with the help of a supportive, stay-at-home dad, like my husband, it’s still a nonstop effort to keep them out of my hair. I’m still saying, every 15 minutes, “go ask Daddy”. That makes it real hard to keep my focus (especially while staring at code).

Admittedly, if these were older kids, the constant interruptions may be less likely to happen. But something tells me, “not likely”. Not until they are preteens or teens, content to stare at a TV or computer screen for hours, or bury their face in a book, especially when they hit the “mom’s not cool” stage.

I’ve gotten to where I explain to my kids that other adults are the boss of me and they say I can’t play now. It sort of helps them get it, but doesn’t stop them from coming to demand my attention.

So here I am, on a Sunday morning, trying to get some freelance work done. And it has taken 15 minutes for me to get full peace and quiet so they are not outside my office door demanding my attention. This will last 20 minutes, at best, before my husband has to return to corral them again.

This whole situation is one of the many reasons my kids are still in daycare even though I work from home. If I tried to do my day job while they stayed home, I’d be perpetually behind on work. Oh wait, here’s another kid. The peace and quiet lasted the 7 minutes it took me to write this.

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