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Posted by on Feb 9, 2015 in Angry Political Crap, Career, Family, Interesting, Life, Profound, Social Commentary | 0 comments

Feminism: That Word Does Not Mean What You Think It Means

Feminism: That Word Does Not Mean What You Think It Means


The word is charged with meaning. It can bring on all kinds of emotions in most individuals.

That said, for most: “that word does not mean what you think it means”.

It does NOT mean that a woman can’t be a stay-at-home mom and still be respected.

It does NOT mean that a stay-at-home mom isn’t a feminist.

It does NOT mean we castigate stay-at-home moms.

It does NOT mean we get MORE rights than men.

It does NOT mean we bitch at men for holding doors or seats for us.

We get EQUAL rights. That’s all it is about. Equal rights, including the choice of how to live our lives, without being bitched at about it. We get to vote. We get equal pay (well, SOMEDAY, in this DAMN COUNTRY).

But it’s about equality. Not more. Not less. And NOT judging the choices women make.

And yes, men can be feminists too. Because they too can believe in our right to choose how to live our lives. My husband is just such a man.

Feminism: learn what it really is, before you get your panties or boxers in a wad.


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Posted by on Feb 7, 2015 in Angry Political Crap, Social Commentary | 0 comments

Wanna Call Me a Parasite? Dare You.

Wanna Call Me a Parasite? Dare You.

Not for the first time,  I’ve lost a job. I’ve been laid off before. Things happen.

But for the first time in my life, I’ve turned to the government because I have twins. My kids have Medicaid. My autistic son can now get help that we couldn’t get, even when I was employed full-time, with VERY GOOD insurance.

We have food stamps (the Lone Star card, in Texas).

Thanks to Obamacare, my husband and I have amazingly good insurance coverage. My copay for my meds today: zero. Our monthly payment is FAR cheaper than COBRA.

I am getting unemployment payments as well.

Am I a parasite?


I’ve worked my ass off to pay into this safety net for over 25 years.

You want to judge someone for having name brand shoes and a fancy phone while paying for food from the government teat? Oh, I’m sorry. Was I supposed to throw away everything I EARNED after I lost my job so you don’t have to stand in line behind me feeling so judgemental (“Judge not.” READ YOUR BOOK).

You see someone in line wearing nice clothes paying at the grocery store with food stamps, or at the unemployment office dressed up. How do you know they aren’t job hunting? Interviewing? They’re dressed to the nines doing everything they can to get a new job. Hell, you probably can’t tell Gucci from a knock-off. But you ASSume that they’ve been living like this their whole life.

How do you know they didn’t get those fancy clothes at Goodwill? Or had them BEFORE they lost their job, like I did?

Yeah, we’re doing Craigstlist and eBay and Half Price books to sell off a lot of stuff around here. Meanwhile, I’m busting my ass job hunting, running my web design/development/hosting/you-name-it business and promoting an e-book I wrote.

Still wanna call me a parasite?

THINK! Here’s our story:

My husband was a stay-at-home Dad the first few years of the twins’ lives (cheaper than putting twins in daycare before age 2). Because of the job background of the two of us, I was more marketable and his industry was in a slump (still is), so it made sense for me to get a job. He’s running his own business, and doing rather well, but we get paid maybe twice a year. Not reliable income. In ten years, his business, if it keeps going as it is, could be our bread and butter. So this is an investment in the future.

Meanwhile, he’s been job hunting  in 3 different fields he’s qualified for. He’s applied for minimum wage jobs and can’t get hired. And for those that haven’t been paying attention, today, if you’ve been “jobless” more than a year or so, you are considered unhireable by most companies (idiotic, asinine, short-sighted thinking).

So for those that sit and judge others for “sucking off the government teat”. Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes (again, something my Episcopal Grandmother taught me).

Everyone that is homeless, or using government resources, has a story to tell, that is full of bad luck and just “shit happens”. My husband and I have spent time over the past 14 years talking to a lot of homeless people (especially in San Francisco, a city RIFE with homeless). We’re friends with 2 homeless men in our area and when we could afford it, we’d hire them to do odd jobs. One is a vet. Hell, one of them, we keep his stuff stashed safely in our backyard so he doesn’t get robbed again.

Because even before this job loss, we could walk in someone else’s shoes. We had empathy. And we did NOT judge.

Let him without sin cast the first stone. I don’t think any of you can throw that first stone. Not one of you.

This government safety net means I keep spending money and putting it back into the economy. And again, it is a system I PAID INTO. I’ve been working since before I was a teen. My first “real job” was at 14. By the time I could drive, I was working fast food and paying taxes.

I pay taxes while working for other companies, and when I run my business. So if you think that everyone that lives off the government is some parasite, think again. We’re likely working a HELL of a lot harder than you are. We’re trying to get our lives back. We’re trying to get ahead. We want that “American Dream”.

Judge not.

Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, before you decide who they really are.

If you can’t do that: you’re a broken person. I got nuthin’ for you.





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Posted by on Nov 22, 2014 in Angry Political Crap, Interesting, Social Commentary | 2 comments

So President Obama is Getting Sued by the GOP – Time for a History Lesson

So President Obama is Getting Sued by the GOP – Time for a History Lesson

House Republicans filed a lawsuit accusing President Barack Obama of overstepping his executive authority when implementing his signature health care law.

“Time after time, the president has chosen to ignore the will of the American people and re-write federal law on his own without a vote of Congress. That’s not the way our system of government was designed to work,” House Speaker John Boehner said in a statement. “If this president can get away with making his own laws, future presidents will have the ability to as well. The House has an obligation to stand up for the Constitution, and that is exactly why we are pursuing this course of action.”

I say: time after time, the House has chosen to ignore the will of the American people and get any REAL work done on the issues we care about. They tried and failed 44 times to repeal the ACA. What’s the definition of insanity? And why were so many of these slackers re-hired this election, instead of FIRED?

Obama told them to work out a law. The House chose to play The Game of Politics instead. So the President took action.

Here’s a chart, showing the recent history of presidents signing executive orders.

Chart of Presidential Executive Orders

U.S. National Archives:
UC Santa Barbara, University of California: to see how far back in history these records go. George Washington signed 8 Executive Orders during his own time in office.

This is lawsuit is political posturing, and the GOP continuing to waste our tax dollars as they continue in their role of the Do Nothing Congress. They KNOW this lawsuit will fail. This is merely political pandering to the base that elected them.

In a nutshell:

  1. Presidential Executive Orders are lawful
  2. Presidential Executive Orders have precedent from the very first President, George Washington.
  3. The GOP knows this is legal
  4. The GOP is pandering to their base
  5. The GOP is WILLFULLY wasting time and our tax dollars
  6. Why is it different when Obama is doing it?

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Posted by on Nov 5, 2014 in Angry Political Crap, Life, Social Commentary | 0 comments

So You’re Sad/Mad Obama is in Office?

Welcome to my world.

I’m a Native Texan. But one of the black sheep of the bunch: a liberal Texan.

This means I NEVER get my candidate elected for my state, or within my state.

Any letter, email, or phone call I send to the elected official for my state (House or Senate) is answered with a polite: “piss off, I’ll vote how I want”.

I have zero representation, for me personally, in Congress, or in my state government (Governor, Lt. Governor, district, and more).

So…boo hoo…you got Obama for 8 whole years.

At least you’re not stuck with him for life.

And if you want to tell me to move out of Texas, then think about why you didn’t leave the U.S. when Obama was elected. There’s your answer.

Don’t even go there with me. (I’m a TEXAS woman, seriously, don’t start up with me…you DO NOT want to see me lead off with an “Oh HELL no!”) 🙂

Elections come and go. We make do with what we have. And we do our best to make changes, regardless of what we’re stuck with.

Because: ‘Murica!

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Posted by on Nov 1, 2014 in Angry Political Crap, mental/emotional health, Social Commentary | 0 comments

So You’re Worried About Children and Gun Violence

So You’re Worried About Children and Gun Violence

You have less to worry about, when it comes to child deaths and guns, than you think

This subject has been bugging me for a long time. So I went to the United States Child Welfare Information Gateway (a Fed site) to get the facts.

Their site led me to a number of other interesting sources, such as the American Human Association and the Inter-Agency Council on Child Abuse and Neglect.

I found a LOT of interesting statistics.

Let’s start, with this one: (FYI, click to enlarge any image.)

Child mortality statistics chart

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Note that gun deaths are WAAAYYY down at the bottom.

Now, let’s get down to the REALLY scary stuff. Like this one:

Child abuse and neglect fatalities chart

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More children die from physical abuse and neglect, than any other cause. Overwhelmingly so. That is truly horrifying.

Now look at this:

Child Abuse Pie Chart

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Look how many BABIES are dying to to abuse and neglect. Babies. Toddlers. Children even younger than my 5 year olds. Can you imagine the emotional damage a person must have to go against their own biological wiring (which happens for both men and women) to do this to a child?

For those of you that are not Freakonimics fans, Steven Levitt is a statistical genius, and rather dispassionate when it comes to data. He says: “If you both own a gun and a swimming pool in your backyard, the swimming pool is about 100 times more likely to kill a child than the gun is.”

He also followed that by saying that very few parents are likely to say something along the lines of: “I don’t want my kid going to that house with a swimming pool, rather than, I don’t want my kids going to the house with a gun in it.”
— Levitt, Steven, Freakonomics: A Rogue Economist Explores the Hidden Side of Everything

Also, I heard it on their podcast. Listen to Steven Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner’s podcast on the subject of guns, statistics, and solutions here.

So what are our REAL priorities when it comes to protecting children? Gun control? Or mental health and education for parents? A society with safety nets for parents that work non-stop to support their family and then one day just snap and lose it? Or parents who fall asleep, exhausted, while their child wanders off to die?

Really. Let’s focus on what we NEED to change: a fundamental shift in how we view mental illness, and how it is treated. We have children dying from medical conditions too. Some are treatable, but not everyone can afford care. Thankfully, we have a start with Obamacare (ACA). But not everyone can even afford that yet.

We need an economy with a higher minimum wage, and penalties for companies that send their manufacturing overseas. We have a declining middle class due to declining blue-collar, factory jobs. Detroit, the city known for being America’s #1 car manufacturing city, for DECADES, is now almost a ghost town.

While the mass shootings, especially those involving children are tragic, they are in the news because they are RARE events and thus “newsworthy”. This does not mean: panic about your child’s safety. What it means, is that we need to look at ALL the issues, not just the gun safety and control issues.

Is the gun issue a distraction from the REAL issues when it comes to child protection? I think so. What say you?

NOTE: I am a gun owner. I believe in having a federal database and background checks for gun owners. This will not stop those who obtain guns illegally (and in inner-cities, children die daily due to gun deaths, from illegal guns). But it might help prevent some of the mass shootings we’ve witnessed over the past few years. I am a firm believer in SOMETHING is better than NOTHING.

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